Relationship Counselling | Melbourne and Balwyn
If you are experiencing difficulties getting to me I will come to you.
Relationships are in crisis – just look at the stats.
We need a new model, a model that works for today.
That model is the conscious relationship.
So what does that mean, and how does that look?
It's a romantic relationship in which both partners feel committed to a sense of purpose, and that purpose is growth. Individual growth primarily, but also collective growth as a couple, and growth that makes the world a better place.
As of now, most people get into relationships to satisfy their own personal needs. This might work for a few years, but eventually the relationship fails us, and we end up unsatisfied as a result. We carry our incompleteness and unresolved wounds into our external relationships and wonder why the relationship doesn’t work despite our best intentions. Our closest relationships should provide a secure support base from which we flourish and express ourselves safely and effectively. Unfortunately, they can instead become the battleground for our unresolved, unconscious patterns and habits.
But when two people come together with the intention of growth, the relationship strives towards something much greater than gratification. The partnership becomes a journey of evolution, and the two individuals have an opportunity to expand more than they could alone. Deep satisfaction and long-term fulfillment arise as a result.
Some of the hallmarks of a conscious relationship:
- The conscious couple is not attached to the outcome of the relationship – growth comes first
- Both people in the relationship are committed to owning their own stuff
- All feelings are welcome and no internal process is condemned
- The relationship is a place to practise love
- It is a priory to develop a relationship with yourself first before getting involved with another
- Falling in love is not a basis for involvement
- Neither partner expects the relationship to make them happy
- It's true – before you can unconditionally love another, you need to unconditionally love yourself, which means doing your own work outside of the relationship
If you come to me for relationship counselling you will:
- Get clear on the unconscious patterns alive in you that limit the potential of the relationship
- Get clear on personal priorities
- Understand the difference between romantic love and unconditional love
- Gain strategies to deal with 'stuff' as it arises
- Learn how to set loving boundaries
- Learn how to deal with 'uncomfortable' truths
- Learn how to create a safe, secure relationship base
- Learn skills to repair an already damaged relationship